We often tell off our friends, family or colleagues as “having wrong attitudes”. What exactly does that mean? Here is my take on ‘attitude’, after my meditation round last night and some reference from a Maria Duval book. A simple one 🙂

1. A desire to remain in touch with the advancing world through an open-minded acceptance that change is inevitable in this fast moving world. That desire for better personal growth and continual self-education no matter how chaotic this world will become.

2. It has been mentioned countless times. We should practise positive thinking no matter how difficult the situation is and that is the true test of greatness in personality. Positive attitude will get you far in life and you may achieve true success if you persist on with that positive energy.

3. Having a right forgiving attitude towards the family, friends, colleagues and any people you know of. Practise forgiveness, love, kindness and respect towards your fellow beings. It will grow you spiritually in a long way.


Resolving the resentment

April 23, 2007

Over the weekend, I met up an ex-colleague, Kate. We had remained in regular contact since I left the company and she is one of my best friends now. It’s fun to be in her company and we really get well together. While we were on a way to attend my ex-boss wedding ceremony I had a chance to talk to Kate.

I asked Kate how is her relationship with her elder brother. I knew they had a big flare-up last year over the inheritance and were on the verge renouncing the sibling tie. It’s amazing what money can do to the spiritual ties if left unchecked. I thought they had patched up recently but apparently they had got worse. While I talked to Kate, I could sense her acrimony and anger in her self. She told me the story and how selfish and wrong her brother’s family had been to her. The old congeniality had gone to shreds.

Kate was very hurt and she told me she was trying all sorts of ways to make ‘them’ see how wrong ‘they’ were. Well, Kate was obviously spending a great deal of energy and feeling horribly resentful towards her own family member. And worse is that she is working herself into a very negative state. I am in no position to offer comments but I told her something spiritual from Maria Duval which I hope she would understand in the end.

The truth is that many of us do this regularly and there is a great obsession how we can either get revenge when we felt we are unfairly treated. But we don’t even realize that by doing this we’re hurting ourselves, while the target of our anger is most likely completely oblivious to the sea of negativity we are swimming in supposedly because of them. Why not just channel this negative anger to something that is positive and instead of finding differences, work to find out how to best sort it out. Being angry and hurtful is probably not going to make them change and they may not be even aware of the anger! In the end, you are creating more and more negativities in your life.

Do not misunderstand that I am saying you must be the party to give way or being nice to your foe. Look at the situation from a different perspective. The perspective is this: How is this affecting me and is it worth it to me to carry on like this. It’s just that, anger is an energy and for every action, there is a reaction energy exerted in your spirituality. Probably, you are the one who are more hurt instead. Thanks Maria Duval for this insight.

Enthusiasm and happiness

April 19, 2007

It is not easy to define what is happiness. Most of my friends are always chasing for that elusive happiness which are forever far away from the finishing line. Many of us are working longer even on weekends, like my colleagues always do. They devote not much time to their families thinking all will be fine. They say they want to build a lifestyle which will make them happy. However, there is always something we can’t afford and pressures to strive for more will not end. Technology keeps moving faster and we need to commit more money to subscribe to services resulted from the new technologies, if not, we are outdated. Why must there be such thinking? We should all live in the world which we feel comfortable in, not be pressurized externally as much as we can.

Let me share, to experience real happiness, stay enthusiastic as much as you can be treat life positively. Then pick up a new knowledge, language or skills and devote time to master it. Example, if you wish to learn Spanish without any knowledge about it is certainly not easy but if you have the right level of enthusiasm, you will be amazed what you can actually do. When you Spanish gets to the basic level where you can converse and understand, your enthusiasm level will go through the stars!

This I can guarantee you will definitely be happy! That’s the true meaning of happiness, not the endless pursuit of material comforts and wealth.

A vision

April 18, 2007

Meditated and prayed last night and I received a vision from the Higher Spiritual Being. The vision that I saw blended perfectly with what I have been contemplating all the time. Is my subconsious mind at fault today for this? Is he the one really for me? Apparently, my vision says he is! I am not sure totally. I hope there is another clearer sign for me soon therefore I feel unsure rather than exhilarated at this moment.

But I re-read Maria Duval’s forecast for me this year and it says with fair accuracy what I’m experiencing and thinking now. How magical, don’t you think so? That’s why I have trust and faith in Maria as she does not disappoint.

Away from this, I am very saddened by the tragic event happening at Virginia Tech. Why can such thing happen again and again over the years? This sad event will be long remembered by many people and I really hope this will press the legislators to pass some laws for more control of the guns.

With love and peace for the souls, I pray.

We have already been criticized and that is a common fact of life. I have been criticized repeatedly during my work too even though I think I do well there. I have always take it on the stride and remain cheerful. Criticism is never a good experience and if a person can be crushed if there is no strong will power. How to keep up a positive energy even in the midst of criticism? Well, there are two parts to this question:

1. Those who truly believe in you and want to help you.
These are your ‘supporters’ and their criticism can often times hurt you a lot because they are close to and have your respect. When those close to you give you constructive criticism, listen to what they have to say and if you feel like it is in your best interest then make any adjustments that they may give.

2. Those who don’t have your best interest at heart.
This type of criticism may bolt you up because it often comes from people whom you didn’t even know were paying attention to you. Occasionally, what they say might have some truth in it, but most of the time it’s best to not even pay attention to what they have to say.

In either of these cases, keep a positive attitude all the time and you will tide over the testing moments.

Maria Duval’s site

April 15, 2007

Some people were telling me mariaduval.com was not even properly filled up so Maria Duval could not possibly be there existing and she could just be a fake. I’m not sure since when this argument comes about however I know this kind of claim can only exist due to internet. Well, Maria Duval’s official home page can be found at http://www.mariaduval.net and I make a plea to them, either Maria or her reps, whom happen to see this post, please seriously consider to buy over mariaduval.com as well because most people’s minds are only tuned in to .com as something true, real and serious.

Away to something more personal, remember the guy whom I crashed my car into? Well, he and I are getting along so well that it is even surprising me. He’s a really sweet guy about 4 years older than me, and we have pretty similar tastes for music, food and general view of life. It’s really that pleasant and he opens my heart again for love and romance which I never expected at the turn of the year. I’ve told my mom and she’s ecstatic for me! Thanks Maria Duval.

Spiritual Practice

April 12, 2007

Often, the most difficult hurdle to overcome in a spiritual practice is the hurdle of beginning. For even though one has the best intentions to improve the quality of life and to deepen one’s relationship with Spirit, it is in starting that a space must be made among many other competing priorities so that what did not exist before can be given room within an otherwise busy and committed life.

Having determined to begin such a practice, the first step that is required is to: be simple. Do what you can do and do not strive to do what seems impossible to do or very difficult to do. Later on more difficulty can be added.

Secondly: be creative. What is most important in establishing contact with the indwelling Spirit and with the spiritual around oneself is to be in a place that feels sacred, a place that communicates a sense of the higher realms and of the invisible, not a place that is ordinary or filled with the vibrations of others. Allow your creativity to find a way to define or locate a sacred space in which you can create an altar which represents your commitment to your spiritual practice.

Thirdly: be committed. Be willing to sit in front of your altar and breathe quietly with your hand over your heart center in the center of your chest, allowing your mind to let go of thoughts as best as it can. In beginning, there is no more needed than this: to sit, to breathe, to bring energy to your heart center, to try to empty your mind.

Regular practice of this very simple kind, whether for ten or twenty minutes a day, will begin to make an inroad into your body’s knowledge of what is actually taking place. It will begin to open the line’s of communication between your everyday physical self and your soul-self that exists as another layer of your being.